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Svarog
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posted May 06, 2005 05:29 AM |
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You jerky cocky Orgasmoratore... You just had to right that the same moment after she left: *Goofy voice* Hey, look guys, I just had some sex, and I'm so exhausted I cant write more.
Just wait until you lose the erection at least. 
On the point on your love dilemmas: Dont play the guilty consciounce card on me. (u and i both know we're immune to that) I think it all comes down on what you want/dont want to come out of all this, meaning I see no point in acting psychotherapist at the moment.
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Conan
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posted May 06, 2005 03:28 PM |
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I don't get it. It went fine with her boyfriend yesterday and the next day she's in bed with you? Is she some kind of nimpho?
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Your life as it has been is over. From this time forward, you will service.... us. - Star Trek TNG
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Sir_Stiven
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posted May 06, 2005 05:59 PM |
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svarog, actually i always eat first after sex
and then usually have a beer
As for the exhaustion it was approx 5:30Am when i wrote the post, obviously i wasnt very tired right then and well.. there is not so much you can do at that hour so i went surfing and checked in here. Happy with the answer? or jealous that some of us actually get some real non statueic action?
But you may be correct in what you say next.. i dunno really, i might just look for justification in what i do. Or its a cry for help trying to get out of it but not knowing how too... or an attempt staying around seeing what happens next. As said.. i dunno yet.
I still dont have strong feelings emotionally for the girl as i never get right away. Though there is a strong attraction. As for my justification - "guilt share" the question to answer i guess is would she have another guy into it if i wasnt around? honestly i dont think so.
And thats not the me "jerky cocky Orgasmoratore" speaking but rather the feeling ive got about this girl.
Conan, i dont think the two of em have sex at all right now. i meant they had a good time together, thats all.
bah this sucks.. i wish another girl just popped up into my life being single and have what im looking for in a girl so i could stop thinking of all this.
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bort
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posted May 06, 2005 10:01 PM |
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World's smallest violin
Man, Stiven, there's nothing worse than somebody who tries to disguise bragging as complaining.
"Boo-hoo, I've got a problem, this hottie keeps coming to my house to wax my weasel after her boyfriend bought her dinner."
But hey, I can play, too. Guys, I've got this really big problem, my dork is so big it can't fit in my underwear. It's really inconvenient. Poor me.
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Sir_Stiven
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posted May 09, 2005 04:25 AM |
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bah
seriously, if it would have been for the bragging id alrdy be going at it in tossers tavern.
trust me, my troubles with girls are bigger than this. Which also is my problem, because the reply i just got from you is the one i keep getting here aswell from my friends. "You got it good going - why you whining?"
People seem to think that if you get hot girls there are no way you can have any problems.
Well I dont friggin have it good right now.
The female front is messed up because of another girl. But if i bring that up aswell you will only think im "bragging" more.
Point is... my lovelife is a mess. The last thing i want is to be a big reason another couple breakes up. As said i do have morale.
So im asking here for advice. Im not the one usually asking for advice and i sure as hell dont do it on a message board. But when my friends tell me that im not to blame and stop being a pain in the ass complaining about these things when i wanna talk about it i dont have much choice since its my first time being in a position like this.
So what i appearently dont want then is more people saying i got it good - shut up - stop bragging.
bah.
anyways.. if someone of you still wanna hear about this. I talked to the girl today.. well actually i talked to her this morning aswell since she called me being drunk both at 6AM and 7AM... anyways we agreed that we would try and see a movie at my place this wednesday and play some games. As friends. No sexual.
Then after a while she says she feels horny and wants me out of the blue. So i say that maybe you should ask your bf then as we agreed to try and just see each other as friends for once. Then she said she didnt want him. Which leaves me in a weird position, though as i feel right now i will still see her wed and _try_ just to be her friend and see how it goes.
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Nidhgrin
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posted May 14, 2005 11:58 AM |
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First and for all this thread does contain some really valuable insights and information about long term relationships and couples in general, great job especially Peacemaker!
Then again, and I hope this doesn't sound rude, though society and everything around us breathes and preaches togetherness I personally believe that it's not the only option. Actually being single is not a crime. It's nothing to feel bad about on itself, and after a couple of failed relationships I feel perfectly happy with having a mate, or a partner if you wish, and to have a couple of really close - and I hope this doesn't sound rude again - 'safe' female friends. I have never felt as comfortable and outright good in my life as right now, even though I know I will never get married and possibly never will have kids, or maybe have to raise them in a less conform to standards family situation. I guess some people would call it fear of bonding, but I never feel suffocated, nor do I ever feel alone, so basically I couldn't wish for anything better. I'm not asking anyone to agree or disagree. If you're happy doing everything together with your husband or wife and live your life that way, that's great and good luck. But it doesn't work for me.
Back to topic then, Bort... That's one of the lowest comments I've seen you make so far. If you don't know what you're talking about then don't comment on the topic at all. Unless you're a jerk who doesn't care about other people's feelings, what Stefan brings up IS a serious problem. How easily do you say no to a hot girl when she keeps pushing, especially after a few drinks - even when you know you should say no? Right...
As to a passe-partout solution imo there is none. Every situation is different, but either way you choose you lose. Personally I think it's important to make clear for yourself where you stand because it's you who has to draw the line. It obviously was not a one time 'accident', nor a way to spice up her relationship with the other fellow because if that'd been the case you might have been in hospital by now  So as mentioned before if you continue to see each other (that way ) she might fall in love with you which means that much more trouble. Unless you're starting to have feeling for this girl too (other than friendship) I'd say bite your tongue and try to cool things down. If the latter is true, turn to others for advice for disaster is the word that comes to mind for me 
And by the way, there have to be plenty of hot single Swedish girls of your age who are much much less of a worry...
Stay out of trouble 
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