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Jebus
Promising
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TheJester akaJeebs akaJebfoo
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posted September 29, 2005 11:30 PM |
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like it says on the door...
"always open"
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Rage08
Famous Hero
Making it in the real world
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posted September 29, 2005 11:37 PM |
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Well, it seems there's nobody else...
Why not tell me what's on your mind Jester... there must be something interesting going on...
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Jebus
Promising
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TheJester akaJeebs akaJebfoo
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posted September 30, 2005 12:02 AM |
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Edited By: Jebus on 29 Sep 2005
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not much really lately on the RL front...
I think it's a shame that people have to go through tough times to get clearer insight on their feelings pertainning to something.
I recently had a mishap with a close friend of mine causing us to take a step back... the issue has been resolved and we're on the uphill climb to better and brighter times. As much as I knew that I appreciated our friendship, it was only when I thought that it might be lost that I trully realized what it meant to me.
I think the fear of losing someone that important to me has openned my eyes to how our interactions affect us both. We're both hitting pivotal changes in our lives and I look forward to seeing where those changes take us.
I've always prided myself in not beeing affraid to discuss my feelings with close friends (both male and female), and I can only hope that my feelings towards those closest to me are known.
(hey I thought I was supose to be the "listener"!)
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(funny that the more I typed the more came to mind)
I guess moments like that are a testament to what is really important. I've recently been tested on more than one occasion and you get a good perspective on what you hold important in your life and what's worth fighting to save. Some things, you realize, were not healthy to start with, so letting go can be a step in the right direction.
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AshenShugar
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posted September 30, 2005 12:30 AM |
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It's good to talk about your feelings from time to time jester ^^ We can all learn from eachother. And yes it's a shame we all go trough rough times. But hey afterall, we are a selfdestructive species. Ooh bleh, i'm so tired I don't even know what i'm sayign anymore. Anyways goodnight all.
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Jebus
Promising
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TheJester akaJeebs akaJebfoo
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posted September 30, 2005 12:34 AM |
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Edited By: Jebus on 29 Sep 2005
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g'night.
(hey you're still here...)
talking about feelings is one thing, I tend to get into some trouble cuz I tend to stick my feet in my mouth. how honest is TOO honest?? 
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pandora
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Legendary Hero
The Chosen One
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posted September 30, 2005 12:55 AM |
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There aren't degrees of honesty, you're either honest or you're not.
Generally these things only get worse when we start supposing, and trying to assume what another person is thinking. The only good advice here is to try to have an honest conversation with the girl. If she doesn't want to do that without playing games, then you know that she isn't really the one for you - and you have much less to worry about.
If she does want to talk, then you go from there step by step - and eventually the right path will become clear
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"In the end, we will remember not the words of our enemies, but the silence of our friends."
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Jebus
Promising
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TheJester akaJeebs akaJebfoo
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posted September 30, 2005 01:01 AM |
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It's too bad AS
is in bed and not around to read your insight...
guess he'll just have to wait until tomorrow.
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terje_the_ma...
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Supreme Hero
Disciple of Herodotus
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posted September 30, 2005 02:25 AM |
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AshesShugar: I'm not a religious man, but I still seem to remember something from the Bible:
"Greatest of all is love," or some such?
But then again, religion is so much more than just the faith in it self - it also includes cultural aspects. And culture clashes could become a bigger problem than theological disagreements, don't you agree? 
Anyway, good luck!
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"Sometimes I think everyone's just pretending to be brave, and none of us really are. Maybe pretending to be brave is how you get brave, I don't know."
- Grenn, A Storm of Swords.
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Rage08
Famous Hero
Making it in the real world
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posted October 04, 2005 11:18 PM |
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Now about what Jebus said...
I would have to agree with your thoughts about not realizing how valuable something is until you've lost it...
This is something I have always thought...
There is also a philosophy I have always had about laws that reminds of this for some reason... I believe that a lot of the laws we have were created solely becuase of certain events that have unfolded through the years of society. What I mean is that a lot of things are made law, because someone either had to die for it to be made law or the government makes a lazy attempt at solving a problem...
There are a lot of examples of this, I think, if one looks at the various laws we have in our lives...
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Jebus
Promising
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TheJester akaJeebs akaJebfoo
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posted October 05, 2005 12:13 AM |
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Rage,
I tend to agree... most laws, rules or bylaws at first sight might look stupid or just plain common sense, but you're right, if the rules exists, it's because someone somewhere had an accident or did somthing stupid.
look at many of the laws surrouding children or even domestic animals (swimming pools, dogs, car seats, seat belts) ... there clearly were enough accidents surrounding ignorance that society had to implement rules to protect us from ....ourselves.
(you really jumped subjects though bud!!  )
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Rage08
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Making it in the real world
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posted October 06, 2005 10:01 PM |
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I just thought I might wanna bring that up... good thing it's a quiet place to say what's on your mind eh?
I'm not sure if Ashenshugar has been around much since then... I'd actually like to hear about what has happened since then...
But I apologize if there is something else important that needs to be discussed... if not, why not tell me more about what's going on for you these days...
It's funny... I still can't believe I didn't know you were Canadian... these things are important when your country only has 20 people in it...
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AshenShugar
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posted October 06, 2005 10:20 PM |
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I'm sorry for my absence the last couple of days, i've been ill, and i'm just recovering. I did however have a talk with the girl when she came over to make me some food O_o (yeah sick boys have to be brought food and they need to get feeded aswell apearantly. A new thing I just discovered ^^)
And well what can I say, after being friends for around 10 years and twisting around the facts for almost three years. We decided to just give it a try and see where the ship lands. So now afterall im no longer single \o/ ( yay to me, or well... poor me since we all know women are trouble )
And well, it's true that we don't know how lucky we are untill we loose everything. And now! i'm going back to my bed again *cough* 'jo jebus, throw me back my lunges please'... 'thanks' cya soon again.
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pandora
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The Chosen One
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posted October 06, 2005 10:29 PM |
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Congrats to you
I hope everything goes well, and that you feel better soon!
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Jebus
Promising
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TheJester akaJeebs akaJebfoo
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posted October 07, 2005 02:29 AM |
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AS,
good job, and I wish you guys the best... just stay honest and things will work out for the best!
(here are your lungs back!! clearly that's what got me sick too! )
Rage,
no need to apologize bud,
was just trying to see the link if there was one...(I hope I didn't make you feel that your comments were unimportant...was not my goal)
always feel free to speak your mind... in not here, then where?
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Jebus
Promising
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TheJester akaJeebs akaJebfoo
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posted October 19, 2005 04:38 PM |
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Anyone ever have that period in their lives where everything seems to be in sink? (not the boy band)
Lately I've been feeling this strange emotional glow of overall well being... I feel clear on all fronts (physical, emotional and phsychological) and I swear I've never wanted to hug so many people!
I've read something lately that said that we shouldn't always be looking forward to a better time in our lives, that we should find the positive in what we're living now.. I'd have to agree. It looks like sandy beaches and grassy plains are in my horizon, but right now, it feels like clear sailings on the way there...
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Guitarguy
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Rockoon.
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posted October 19, 2005 08:26 PM |
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Quote:
Anyone ever have that period in their lives where everything seems to be in sink?
1. In sink (going down the drain):
I tend to feel like this every so often, but it's not always as bad as I thought. I think negatively by nature, so I always feel lousy at the beginning. I eventually come to terms with whatever's going on and pull some kind of positive lesson from it. I don't like the sinking feeling, though, especially when a girl is involved.
2. In sync (going smoothly):
I suppose there are times when I feel that my life is in sync, but I often don't think of it in those terms. There is always something that seems to be missing, prompting me to shift concern to it. I worry a lot as a result. On the other hand, I'm comforted by the easy times when nothing big happens. It depends on the details of the situation, I guess.
Right now, I feel less in sync and more in sink. 
-Guitarguy
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Jebus
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TheJester akaJeebs akaJebfoo
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posted October 19, 2005 09:15 PM |
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1. In sink (going down the drain):
smart a$$!
Im reading a book on "beeing happy" and one of the first major points is how we dwell on negetive thoughts and allow them to bring us down.. they basically say that we have negetive thoughts all the time (just like happy ones) but we tend to pay more attention to the bad thus causing us to dwell on the subject, explore it to it's depths and get more and more depressed.
but if we can learn to disregard them as "just thoughts" we can deal with issues we have without allowing our thoughts to control our mood. The author explains that if we allow these "negetive thoughts" to take over and we start believing them as reality and not a thought, that's where we fall into a depression. (it's actually pretty interesting)
but they also say that thinking "positive" all the time becomes drainning and tends to wear you out anyhow.. but we won't get into that part.
Unless you learn to let go of those negetive thoughts that keep dwelling, you'll never get passed your present mind set.
(smart a$$)
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Guitarguy
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Rockoon.
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posted October 19, 2005 09:22 PM |
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(smart a$$)
I feel better already...for some reason.
Woohoo, Jebus said I'm smart!
-Guitarguy
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Jebus
Promising
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TheJester akaJeebs akaJebfoo
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posted October 19, 2005 09:28 PM |
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Edited By: Jebus on 21 Oct 2005
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yeah smart as money!
(you'd have to go to the other side to read up on our views on money and today's economy!!)
EDIT:
to follow my train of thought from my previous email...
I've been in this wierd frame of mind lately.
Last night I finally took the time to send out an email to an old highschool friend in regards to something I had said to him years ago. Everytime I'd think of him, I would have this feeling of guilt and shame cuz of the dumb joke I made once. Instead of beeing supportive of him, I took a stupid dare to make fun of him in public. It never sat well with him but even more so for me. I've never really gotten over how dumb that was and finally decided to write him (seeing it as I don't have any recent numbers for him).
It was more of a cleansing of my conscience but I find it odd that lately I've been wanting to put those types of events behind me by owning up to my responsibilities and the role I played in those events.
It's been a wierd year for stuff like that.
J
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TheAsgard
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Wise and helpful being
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posted October 29, 2005 01:30 PM |
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I was scanning through the threads and this one spoke to me, I have read that some of you in here have had issues with love/relationships, so I thought I should spill the beans too.
Have you ever had so much love for one person, the person that you believe that you are to spend your life with. You may have envisioned your future with that person and believe that you are soul mates and may have been together in a past life (if you believe in that stuff!).
I feel this way for a person, and I may seem strange but it is like I have more love for this person than for my family. Don't get me wrong I do love my family, but it is like this love trancends that to another level. A love that make you feel complete and that your life has meaning and every time you see them your heart skips a beat or two and you feel light as air. Anyway I know that this person has similar feelings for me but I think they are affraid to commit to a relationship due to a past one that has left them broken.
I hurts so bad because they are so close yet so far, and with out them it feels as tough their is a void inside of me. How do you tell them that you would rather 'die' then see then hurt and that you are willing to do what it takes to love, protect, be their sheild from the harshness of life. I just what to scream out in pain, but I have to bottle it up and try to slowly move foward step by painful step.
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