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Thanks, to everyone who gave me a tip.^^

This thread is probably going to be of use to newcomers, so I will collect it down in one post:

(Disclaimer: I did not come up with this advice myself, it comes from all(almost all) the people who posted in this thread)

1. Learn from the mistakes of other people(by Fred79). However, this depends on how much forums you take a look at, because it is likely that you will miss some critical and teaching mistakes. This is more likely in groups, for example, a group of people predicting how much nuts there are in a can are likely to be wrong, however, with each person being wrong, it corrects the others. It is fascinating to think of how almost the whole group could be wrong and one person gets it right.

2. Calm down and think before posting(by gnomes2169). "Speak when you are angry and you will make the best speech you regret the worst(or something along those lines)" - Ambrose... err.. Why do I keep forgetting their names Anyways, I also did a little experiment, and I found out that what you want to say when you are angry is different from when you are calm.

3. Study what you want to be (by Fred79). The easiest way is to find a role-model. After you locate your role-model, look at his posts, and then compare his recent posts to his first posts. Take note of the differences, you will need them, because recent posts are usually better than first ones, and so far I haven't seen an exception for this. The reason is, as you post more and more(and read and study actually), the more you learn. By taking note of the differences, you will be able to examine them and know what and how he learned. If you become a better poster, odds are, you are helping other people, because it's possible that you will be a role model for others.

4. You are never alone (something I noticed by myself). In anything, there is a bright side and a dark side, good and bad, negative and positive. You can be what you want, but it's not that simple, because you will have to make effort(credit goes to Fred79 for clarifying the effort part). Whichever side you are, bear in mind, you are not alone.

5. Take everything with a grain of salt(or something along those lines, again ), because you never know if something someone said is right or wrong until you've tested it (by OhforfSake). Not only that, take provocations with a grain of salt. When someone provoking them, you think of various ways to deal with it, but it's best to ignore them. Not only does it keep peace in a thread, it also makes the provoker know that they are not successful in making you angry. Finally, if you do it for all of the provocations, you will get 2 positive results:

- The provocations will become gradually less and less until they stop completely.

- You will have trained on dealing with provocations.

6. Take some time to relax (by me). After being very thoughtful, you should take a break and show your true side, but don't do it for too long. The problem is that people are mis-led by the term too long. You have to do this in the VW strictly, do it very subtly and take care not to cause any problems.

7. If something goes without saying, let it. This is also a proverb but I'm not going to bother, because I either got some of it wrong, forgot who said it or both. For example, here I was going to say: "Respect the code of conduct (by Corribus) bla bla", but after repeating it in my brain for sometime, I realized that it goes without saying, and I had to keep silent about it, because it wouldn't do me any good to brag about it. Here's the problematic thing, you will most likely know that something goes without saying, but you will want to brag about it nontheless, which may sometimes make people think you are treating them like idiots. I told you what I was going to say for the sake of example and lesson, and no more.

8. Don't read the lines themselves, read what is in between. An important part of successful communication is knowning what's being meant/unsaid, not what's being said. You are likely to comprehend what people say, so put more effort into understanding what they are trying to get across. This is one of the keys into actually understanding people with a similar way of thinking.

(if I miss anything, it's going to be edited).

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fred79 said:

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i tried helping you, herry. we all did. and you deliberately ignored us. i think you're too young to be helped. with a little age and a little maturity, you could develop into a grade-A spammer. until then...


just keep your head down.

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fred79 said:

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your first step to changing, is making the effort to actually try.

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Herry said:

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Yeah, I can see that, I'll do my best to best fit you expectations... (That sounded a bit wrong did it? )

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