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russ
Promising
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posted February 07, 2008 05:42 PM |
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@Valery
WOW!!! That was an amazing summary. Nothing to add, nothing to take away. Every man should know this and watch out for this kind of women.
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Celfious
Promising
Legendary Hero
From earth
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posted February 08, 2008 07:12 PM |
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I wrote a song, part of a song, last night called Feelings fade... Cuz they do, atleast in my case most of them did.. Maybe I'll post it sometime.
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What are you up to
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Seraphim
Supreme Hero
Knowledge Reaper
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posted February 09, 2008 12:58 AM |
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Quote:
I wrote a song, part of a song, last night called Feelings fade... Cuz they do, atleast in my case most of them did.. Maybe I'll post it sometime.
Well,thats the life and do not worry please,you aren't here the only one with this fate.
You should either fight or forget it.Thinking about it is a waste of time as it takes over you.
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winterfate
Supreme Hero
Water-marked Champion!
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posted February 09, 2008 01:37 AM |
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Well,thats the life and do not worry please,you aren't here the only one with this fate.
You should either fight or forget it.Thinking about it is a waste of time as it takes over you.
@Seraphim: I definitely agree with that...seeing as how I tend to over-analyze everything. 
The feeling is more like being consumed. 
So, Celfious, try not to dwell on it too much, ok?
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If you supposedly care about someone, then don't push them out of your life. Acting like you're not doing it doesn't exempt you from what I just said. - Winterfate
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Aculias
Responsible
Undefeatable Hero
Pretty Boy Angel Sacraficer
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posted February 09, 2008 02:47 AM |
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easiar said then done lol.
Fugures kids would write about that stuff.
Love goes beyond feelings sometimes.
Same as your family or anything. When you truly love something or someone & something does not go right. It's hard.
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Dreaming of a Better World
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Seraphim
Supreme Hero
Knowledge Reaper
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posted February 09, 2008 12:39 PM |
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Edited by Seraphim at 12:43, 09 Feb 2008.
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easiar said then done lol.
Fugures kids would write about that stuff.
Love goes beyond feelings sometimes.
Same as your family or anything. When you truly love something or someone & something does not go right. It's hard.
I do not understand you here.
If someone does not like or love you,can you say to him-her the you love him-her?
You may love someone as much as you like but being obsessed by it is a waste of time.If you love someone who does not love you than that is bad because you can not accept the reality.
At least this is my opinion.
edit:
"Fugures kids would write about that stuff"
What?Am I a child now?
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emilsn
Legendary Hero
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posted February 09, 2008 08:03 PM |
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Quote from Strapping Young Lad - Love?
LOVE... is a way of feeling
LOVE is a way of feeling less alone
So what's all the fuss about?!?
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Don't walk behind me; I may not
lead. Don't walk in front of me;
I may not follow. Just walk
beside me and be my friend.
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Orfinn
Supreme Hero
Werewolf Duke
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posted February 09, 2008 11:35 PM |
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Edited by Orfinn at 23:37, 09 Feb 2008.
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easiar said then done lol.
Fugures kids would write about that stuff.
Love goes beyond feelings sometimes.
Same as your family or anything. When you truly love something or someone & something does not go right. It's hard.
Possession = death sometimes, extreme cases to be more precise.
Love can go so beyond of what its really worth, your mind so clouded that everything about that beloved person of yours...vaporizes to nothing more than suffering and pain. Where even time cant help healing those wounds of love, fast enough.
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Aculias
Responsible
Undefeatable Hero
Pretty Boy Angel Sacraficer
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posted February 10, 2008 01:29 AM |
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Serprham from Lagrahm.
How about if you lost a family member like your mother or father.
Brother or sister?
How would that make you feel.
Pretty much about the same feeling.
If you never felt like that then you never really had love for whatever it is.
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Dreaming of a Better World
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Celfious
Promising
Legendary Hero
From earth
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posted February 12, 2008 07:33 PM |
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The Gootch I am still an acting friend  I am no twitterpatter as you stated.
By the way I added one sentance to the first post that says something about talk about anything to do with the topic which is love sick (bad name for the thread by the way)
I still care about this girl but under the circumstances I would have to wait 11 months and 2 days to see what happens.
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emilsn
Legendary Hero
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posted February 13, 2008 11:31 AM |
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I still care about this girl but under the circumstances I would have to wait 11 months and 2 days to see what happens.
wauw. Thats along time, I hope you are allowed to masturbate!
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Don't walk behind me; I may not
lead. Don't walk in front of me;
I may not follow. Just walk
beside me and be my friend.
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Nidhgrin
Honorable
Famous Hero
baking cookies from stardust
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posted February 19, 2008 01:14 AM |
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Edited by Nidhgrin at 01:18, 19 Feb 2008.
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It's been a while since I last visited HC, but this is an interesting topic indeed.
Like Russ said, every man should read Valeriy's summary and watch out for this kind of women.
Other than that, I think I might have some advice for the male posters in this thread - and add a footnote to Valeriy's message, in that it takes a certain kind of man to fall in love with a certain kind of woman.
If you are a rather passionate person like me,
sooner or later you will realize that the hottest fires burn for a short time only,
while a gentle glow has much more chance to last.
When you fall in love, you actually fall in love with the image of a person that is in your mind.
Like Valeriy said, when that image resembles your anima (subconscious image of the perfect woman), the feeling can develop into an serious crush.
Especially when you've not known someone for so long, or don't know her that well, your mind will fill in the blanks with positive things.
If you allow yourself to fall in love this way, chances are your expectations towards the woman of your dreams will reach unrealistic heights.
At that point, when you confront her with your love, she will most likely push you off.
Why? Not necessarily because she's 'that specific kind of girl'. But because it's impossible to match up to, or compete with the image you have of her in your mind. Even if she does feel love for you, she doesn't know how to respond to the intensity of your feelings. When she really likes you, she may actually respond pretty well at first. Unfortunately, because you're probably showering her with attention in your admiration, sooner or later she will start feeling that the relationship is out of balance, that she can't return the amount of love that you give. Or worse, she may realize that you don't really know who she is, are in fact in love with a dream inside your head, and may stop loving her once you find out her true self. Not much later, the 'it's me, it's not you' speech will come up. And you will feel lovesick, wondering why you always fall for the wrong kind of women...
Well perhaps you don't. In my previous and in my current relationship, I tried to take things slow. It's not easy when you're a passionate person, but it's worth the effort. Whatever you do, don't overdo. Notice what she's wearing and compliment when she's wearing something new, do stuff together and tell her about your hobbies, things you do. Laugh with her jokes, and tell her that you liked something she said, something she did, or something you did together. Ask her about her life. Take it easy. Really. Take your time to get to know her. Still like her after 2-4 weeks? Still drunk with love? Then it's time to gather all of your courage.
Give her a strong hug after a great day together, a kiss when you're really confident she will kiss you back, or safer just take her hand before you say goodbye and give it a gentle squeeze. Hey, improvise!!  These are just some ideas... But whatever you do, take it easy. Then some time later (half an hour or an hour at least) send her a message (email, sms, ...). It's preferrable to tell her this in person at the end of the day, in stead of in a message, but if you've read this far it's probably safer to use a text message
Here's where you have to be very careful. Don't tell her straight out that you're madly in love with her, and have been for a loooong time... (cough ) Tell her that she makes you feel good, that time flies when she's around, that you hope to do things together more often, ... If she doesn't respond immediately, that's not necessarily a bad sign. If she really ignores you after the message (for instance when you ask her the next day if she want to do something together and she doesn't respond), she's probably not interested, but doesn't want to hurt you. Same counts for an immediate negative return message. All other signs (even no immediate reaction, but a yes to meeting again in the near future) are hopeful or good. Just continue to take things easy, and if she falls in love with you as well, try to find a rhythm that suits you both. Not too fast, not too slow.
Hope this helps
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