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MightyMage
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posted December 15, 2008 07:19 AM |
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Yeah, I wish it was all as simple as that.
I really don't care about her apology because it seems like it's been quite a while since the whole ordeal. It's like too little too late to me. I haven't even actually forgiven her yet even though I've spoken to her three times since she apologized. The thing is, I don't hold a grudge and I'm not angry with her anymore...I just don't care.
So I guess I could forgive her.
She keeps telling me that she misses me and still loves me. I haven't said this to her but I've thought it:
She can't do that. It doesn't work like that. You can't just toss someone aside and the minute you realize what a mistake you made, tell them you love them and expect them to come back.
Now I'm dealing with an inner conflict. It's true, I do still care about her. A part of me probably always will. My problem is I don't hate her. There's so many reasons why I should too. And it would make all of this more simple. I could just say "screw you" and turn my back.
But I don't hate her and I'm no longer angry with her. I said earlier that I would be afraid to get back with her because of all the 'what ifs'.
It's hard to describe how I feel. It's like I want to tell her that I still have feelings for her but I know that's wrong. I can't let her get her own way. I keep thinking things like that. That she needs to learn her lesson. But relationships don't work like that. She's not my child who I can "teach a lesson to".
So now I'm faced with a decision. Accept her apology and take her back knowing there's a chance that she'll just pull the same crap again or tell her no and keep on wondering what could have been?
I don't know what the future holds and that's what makes all of this so damn hard and scary. I know there are people out there with bigger problems and I shouldn't be whining over something so trivial but, I am anyway.
I've been told to move on and I think I did. As best as I can anyway. I was living my life with no problems. Dating plenty of other girls. I haven't felt anything special with any of them which is another reason why I've been reconsidering Jasmine. What I do know is I loved her and I had feelings for her. I still have some feelings for her. I think I've gone out with at least 14 other girls including the couple of one night stands ( ) but I just haven't felt a connection. I've gone out with 9 of them more then three times so it's not like I'm not giving it a chance. I just don't feel anything.
I know it sounds like I'm considering Jasmine out of desperation or like I'm just settling with her but that's not really the case. I don't have to be in a relationship with someone right now to be happy. I'm 23 so there's plenty of time. I'm just worried that if I do what seems right logically (forget about her) that I'll be passing up on renewing what we once had.
I don't know anymore. It seems so stupid when I think about it. Sitting here wondering if my ex is "the one" and if I'm letting her slip away.
I think need a vacation to get my mind off things. 
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want to be! - OhforfSake
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winterfate
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posted December 15, 2008 07:27 AM |
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@Father: I'm glad it all turned out well for you. 
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I don't have to be in a relationship with someone right now to be happy.
@MM: But...but...
Lol, joking. 
Seriously though, you need to take a breather from dating and assess how you truly feel about everything. At least that's what I'd do. 
Also, I agree, you have lots of time and you seem to have figured out the basics of getting dates/gfs/etc...
(Which is something I'm so close to doing for the first time...darn it. Hate having my foot inside the door and not knowing how to tell her.)
But, that's life. I'm sure everything will work out in the end. It always does.
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Ceres
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posted December 15, 2008 07:34 AM |
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Wow... gratz with that Winterfate. I'm happy for you.
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winterfate
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posted December 15, 2008 07:38 AM |
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@Ceres: Thanks for the props, but I'm not there yet.
I'm only assuming that because of how we interact together.
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Consis
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posted December 15, 2008 10:06 AM |
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MightyMage
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posted December 16, 2008 05:39 AM |
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Seriously though, you need to take a breather from dating and assess how you truly feel about everything. At least that's what I'd do.
Also, I agree, you have lots of time and you seem to have figured out the basics of getting dates/gfs/etc...
(Which is something I'm so close to doing for the first time...darn it. Hate having my foot inside the door and not knowing how to tell her.)
But, that's life. I'm sure everything will work out in the end. It always does.
If you wouldn't mind, please explain this situation to me. Already I can tell you, without you having to say anything yet, that if you've been "interacting with someone" for awhile and haven't yet made a move, chanses are you'll be headed for the friend zone. But please, enlighten me.
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MightyMage. For he is all I could ever
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TitaniumAlloy
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posted December 16, 2008 05:48 AM |
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BABY DON'T HURT ME!
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winterfate
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posted December 17, 2008 03:12 AM |
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If you wouldn't mind, please explain this situation to me. Already I can tell you, without you having to say anything yet, that if you've been "interacting with someone" for awhile and haven't yet made a move, chances are you'll be headed for the friend zone. But please, enlighten me.
Of course I don't mind.
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Ok, it goes like this:
Last semester I met this one lady. At the time, I didn't really feel anything for her (and in any case she had a bf back then as well). Well, this semester we were in the same Organic Chemistry lab section. Since I already knew her, one day (out of the blue) I asked her if she wanted to go out to eat after the lab. She agreed (I was like OMG! ) So then we went out.
After that first time, we went out weekly, after the lab. Became a sort of ritual. Well, about 2 months or so ago, I noticed that I had started feeling something more than a mere friendship towards her. Well, seeing as how my record is full of fail, I wanted to make sure it wasn't just a silly crush. So I let a few weeks pass...
Negative.
I'm in love...bad. Like the, can't stop thinking about her bad. It sucks...
EDIT: Did I mention I'm beating around the bush? All or nothing is better in love, not a half-baked attempt to tell her. XD
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@TA: BABY DON'T HURT ME NO MORE!
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Ceres
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posted December 17, 2008 03:22 AM |
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Oh... that is so sweet Winterfate! I miss my old days... no I don't think so. 
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winterfate
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posted December 17, 2008 03:24 AM |
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@Ceres: LOL. Feel free to talk about it too. It helps.
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Ceres
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posted December 17, 2008 03:27 AM |
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LOL No. At least not here. But I was amused in you. I think you are a romantic guy. So do you think she loves you?
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winterfate
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posted December 17, 2008 03:29 AM |
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Well I know she cares about me.
Caring =/= Love
Don't you just love how complicated we humans make everything?
Also, thanks Ceres.
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Ceres
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posted December 17, 2008 03:30 AM |
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Yeah we are indeed complicated, just like fractals.
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winterfate
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posted December 17, 2008 03:31 AM |
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Fractals? What is they?
*is creeped out that the spell checker isn't kicking in for that word*
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posted December 17, 2008 01:59 PM |
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Fractal?
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MightyMage
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posted December 17, 2008 05:46 PM |
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Winterfate, if you could describe to me from your viewpoint exactly how one of your dinner dates plays out.
I may have an idea for you but it will all depend on how she is with you.
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posted December 17, 2008 06:46 PM |
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Winterfate, if you could describe to me from your viewpoint exactly how one of your dinner dates plays out.
I may have an idea for you but it will all depend on how she is with you.
I hope this doesn't involve being naked except for a banjo and a cowboy hat.
Actually I'm curious about your idea regardless of Winterfate's answer. I definitely agree that there's a point where it's "too late" to make a move. Gotta do that stuff fast.
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posted December 18, 2008 01:02 AM |
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@MM: Lunch date actually.
Anyways, we grab a bite to eat and chit-chat about stuff (like what things we like to do and stuff like that).
It appears we both play chess.
Also we have very similar personalities.
And when we're not chit-chatting we're studying together. 
Not sure if this is what you meant, but that's about all I have for you.
@TheDeath: Oh I see. Thanks.
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posted December 18, 2008 01:08 AM |
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Well, you could do it two ways... The right morally correct way and play fair and if you lose the game, you give up or something, BUT did anyone tell you about the amoral way that will take time, but definitely wins her over? It's all explained in detail over here... Hey, all is fair in love and war, right?
(I'm kidding, really, please noone take offense or anything)
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posted December 18, 2008 01:10 AM |
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@Dagoth: On the contrary, you made my day. Thanks for the laugh.
Yeah, that does describe my POV.
I'm too empathic, methinks...
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