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ohforfsake
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posted March 30, 2011 02:18 AM |
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who will drop you if ever you don't understand?
Again. This is exactly the problem with asking directly.
Rather give me some advice on how to be the ultimate male, so she won't be able to resist me and ask me in stead!
Of course I'll get a lot of other questions by other females then as well, but it's cool, I can just say no.
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selcy
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posted March 30, 2011 02:26 AM |
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Don't talk about your penis or penis related subjects like you do on HC that is a definate turn off.
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ohforfsake
Promising
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posted March 30, 2011 02:28 AM |
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Yes, thank you for telling me. I didn't know that earlier, however I thought I had stopped doing this ever since Adrius asked me to? If I still do it, I suppose I'm unaware of it.
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Fauch
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posted March 30, 2011 02:53 AM |
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I don't know, I just ask her directly. I don't try to impress her.
especially over the internet, imagine how she will be disappointed when she eventually meets you.
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ohforfsake
Promising
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posted March 30, 2011 03:03 AM |
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I am not trying to give the impresion of being someone I am not.
I am merely asking for pointers here. I'm certain it's not the same thing.
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Seraphim
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posted March 30, 2011 04:04 AM |
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So, Superior, how old are you again? 
im 24 mate, but just like the name says it, it seems im far more superior than anybody else in here, so u cant count that as 124 yrs old or smth thats equal to my experience
Superior? Please stop this gibberish talk.
The best way to experience love is through love,not through lies,gossips and fear.
If you fear,if you take personal problems with you in a relationship,it will fail.
The op seems very mature to me,I would always say to give it a shot instead of to repent.Sadly,I know this from experience.
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Corribus
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The Abyss Staring Back at You
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posted March 30, 2011 05:19 AM |
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would u like a copy of my gmat scores ? that would probably fuk your day up, i'll cut to the chase, my IQ has been tested four times over years, whenever u feel like it u just pm me with any sort of intelligence test and we'll make it interesting 
LMAO. I couldn't care less what your gmat scores were.
If it would make you happy I could go look up my old SAT, AP, GRE, or MCAT scores, but I'd have to go dig them out of my very large "Doesn't Mean a Damn Thing" file.
By the way, if we actually had any moderators here any more, you'd be rightly penalized for your blatant disregard of community rules. In the future you might want to set an example and use language more representative of your alleged intelligence.
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I'm sick of following my dreams. I'm just going to ask them where they're goin', and hook up with them later. -Mitch Hedberg
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1910
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posted March 30, 2011 06:10 AM |
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thats kinda emberrassing, its pretty much what all the losers say, let me guess u believe that in sports its not important to win but to participate, ur also the one who thinks that size doesnt really matter dont ya... sorry bro but it all does matter, its all the difference in the world
I actually think it's quite embarrassing your lack of knowledge regarding this thing we call life. Women don't care about size, they only care about how you use it. Oh and if you're apparently so intelligent, why in the holy mother of **** do you type like a 12 year old? "ur", "dont", "thats", "emberrassing", "doesnt"? You type as if you're about 12. The only one that's a loser here is yourself. Really, who's wasting their time here? You come onto a forum and waste your own time making yourself look like a fool and guess what? You did that well. The only intelligent thing you could do right now is get off the computer and grow up.
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meroe
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Basically Smurfette
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posted March 30, 2011 10:31 AM |
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Forfy, if you like this person, just be yourself. If they are worth your time, they will appreciate your personality too.
Just chat with her. You say you know her online? Well then however you met, just keep the dialogue going. After all, if she happens to be from another country etc, it is the only way you will have contact anyway.
Jokey chats can lead to the swapping of personal information etc. Hell me and Selcy swapped email addresses after only chatting on HCM for a day lol! And yes while I appreciate that is different, that is how easy it can be.
The chances are, if she chats with you a lot already, she is already aware of your personality and likes it.
And don't worry about what some people say regarding online dating and people meeting online .... its the future hon 
I really don't know if what I've written will be of any use to you? Just be yourself, you have a very sweet and funny personality ... thats always a winner
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Meroe is definetely out, sweet
as she sounds sometimes, she'd
definetely castrate you with a
rusted razror and forcefeed
your genitals to you in a
blink of an eye - Kipshasz
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ohforfsake
Promising
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posted March 30, 2011 01:35 PM |
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I'm tempted to just write /thread after meroe's comment
That's actually very nicely written, meroe. Thank you very much! It has given me a new perspective. I'll try to be all I can be, for me and if she happens to like my person, she'll probably as well find me interesting.
Then we'll find eachother interesting, writing more with eachother, and it'll probably be the same thing as a long-distance relationship anyhow.
Eventually, if we like eachother enough, we'll probably decide to meet and see how it takes from there.
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Doomforge
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posted March 30, 2011 02:34 PM |
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Ummm... while Meroe's comment obviously has a lot of truth in it, I disagree on the "keep chatting" part. Checking how are you in real life is the most important thing. Don't waste your time on chats. Try to meet IRL asap.
(ofc I'm just guessing she's from the same country, and doesn't live too far. Would you tell us the details, offs? )
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ohforfsake
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posted March 30, 2011 02:39 PM |
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I have plenty of time Doom, so it's cool, I'm in no hurry. I'm 23, and as the state of my mind is right now, I won't mind waiting 10-20 years for her, if it means she'll be with me.
Of course my state of mind may change and then->
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Would you tell us the details, offs?
No at least not unless my feelings have dissapeared, then we can all laugh a little at it, but until then, it's too scary for me to be honest.
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Doomforge
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posted March 30, 2011 02:43 PM |
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I have plenty of time Doom, so it's cool, I'm in no hurry. I'm 23, and as the state of my mind is right now, I won't mind waiting 10-20 years for her, if it means she'll be with me.
no sane person will wait for you 20 years. If she's really interesting as you describe, expect her to get a boyfriend (or girlfriend, whatever suits her) really soon. You're just wasting a chance.
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No at least not unless my feelings have dissapeared, then we can all laugh a little at it, but until then, it's too scary for me to be honest.
Merely asking if she's from the same country.
If you feel too scared in the age of 23, maybe you should remain single.
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ohforfsake
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posted March 30, 2011 03:08 PM |
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I haven't considered her getting in a relationship with someone else.
Ultimately though, it's her happiness that matters. So I don't see much of a problem with it either. Because if she's in a relationship while she finds me interesting, it'll be her luxury problem, as such no matter what she decides, she'll end up happy, hopefully.
I don't know where she's from. I've a rough idea though, and I don't think she's from the same country.
I don't mind remaining single, if it increases the possibility of getting to be with her later on. As it is, I'm somewhat asexual in my mind/ego (not my body though, it craves), so it's not like I'm gonna weep for her every night.
I do find a high satisfaction in simply communicating with her. I hope one day, at least here and now, that it might be something more. That it might be love.
Therefore, as meroe put it, I think, it's probably just be better to keep on talking with her. Being all I can be (for me of course) and then, if she happens to find me interesting, it's worth it.
If she doesn't happen to find me interesting, it was never worth it.
At least, that's what I gather from what she wrote and so far, it's the advice that suits me the best.
I'm of course very happy for all the advice I've got! Especially you Doom have contributed quite a lot! I just think our brains works differently right now (probably mainly because I'm scared of failure, where I suppose you've the experience to know not to waste too much time on any single person), as such selcy and meroe might have an easier time to reach me than you do. Hmm, does that make me a girl?
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Doomforge
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posted March 30, 2011 03:21 PM |
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I haven't considered her getting in a relationship with someone else.
Beginner's mistake, friend
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Ultimately though, it's her happiness that matters. So I don't see much of a problem with it either. Because if she's in a relationship while she finds me interesting, it'll be her luxury problem, as such no matter what she decides, she'll end up happy, hopefully.
Bad attitude. YOUR happiness matters.
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I don't know where she's from. I've a rough idea though, and I don't think she's from the same country.
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I do find a high satisfaction in simply communicating with her. I hope one day, at least here and now, that it might be something more. That it might be love.
Perhaps you just need an e-friend. What you describe definitively doesn't suit "girlfriend" label.
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I'm of course very happy for all the advice I've got! Especially you Doom have contributed quite a lot! I just think our brains works differently right now (probably mainly because I'm scared of failure, where I suppose you've the experience to know not to waste too much time on any single person), as such selcy and meroe might have an easier time to reach me than you do. Hmm, does that make me a girl?
You definitively have an exotic personality However, this girl you're talking about probably has not, meaning, she will not act like you would and will not think like you. The scenario you have in head (years of chatting, e-relationship) is simply a no-no for an average person (average not being pejorative here), most people will not only not consider this, but find this impossible or even stupid.
And keep in mind that to have a girlfriend, you both must want the same scenario. I find it really hard to imagine a girl which would agree on e-relationship. It's never serious, you know. Even if you find one bored, curious girl, she will most likely find someone IRL that makes her hormones rage and will forget about you instantly. Hormones don't really work over the internet, that's something you should really consider as limiting factor. 
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Corribus
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posted March 30, 2011 03:30 PM |
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And keep in mind that to have a girlfriend, you both must want the same scenario.
A small quantity of rope and duct tape can help you get around that requirement. A bottle of chloroform and a basement with a secret door also are useful.
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Lexxan
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Unimpressed by your logic
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posted March 30, 2011 03:48 PM |
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thats kinda emberrassing, its pretty much what all the losers say, let me guess u believe that in sports its not important to win but to participate, ur also the one who thinks that size doesnt really matter dont ya... sorry bro but it all does matter, its all the difference in the world
I actually think it's quite embarrassing your lack of knowledge regarding this thing we call life. Women don't care about size, they only care about how you use it. Oh and if you're apparently so intelligent, why in the holy mother of **** do you type like a 12 year old? "ur", "dont", "thats", "emberrassing", "doesnt"? You type as if you're about 12. The only one that's a loser here is yourself. Really, who's wasting their time here? You come onto a forum and waste your own time making yourself look like a fool and guess what? You did that well. The only intelligent thing you could do right now is get off the computer and grow up.
WILLIAMPWNAGE!!!!
(although admittedly, that Superior fellow *REEKS* try-hard troll imo)
I never had a relationship on the netz before, nor do I plan having one (the whole concept just seems to alien to me, though kudos to Will for actually having one that SUCCEEDED <3). It just feels weird to grow extra-ordinarily close with someone you barely know, let alone know how they actually look like.
(sending pictures doesn't count. I can easily google picture of any attractive 20-year old stud and send them to whoever i'm trying to court. Way too easy to meddle with))
The thread is an interesting read though, so keep up with that.
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Fauch
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posted March 30, 2011 03:58 PM |
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lol, yes, ohforf has quite an altruistic behaviour 
I don't know if she's gonna wait for you. probably not 20 years but people aren't all like doomforge and some of them can afford waiting a few months or even years. or at least, I think so
lol, that makes me think of the book I'm reading. Brave new world by Aldous Huxley.
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"I once had to wait nearly four weeks before a girl I wanted would let
me have her."
"And you felt a strong emotion in consequence?"
"Horrible!"
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1910
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posted March 30, 2011 04:07 PM |
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though kudos to Will for actually having one that SUCCEEDED <3
Thanks mate. Btw, off topic, but where have you been lately? I haven't seen you on MSN for ages mate!!! Get your act together. lol
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Fauch
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posted March 30, 2011 04:18 PM |
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If you fear,if you take personal problems with you in a relationship,it will fail.
most likely, because many couples seem to prefer fleeing their problems until they can't do a damn thing about it, and then, they blame their partner for doing nothing and because it's all his mistake and they break up.
but you can fear and still not flee.
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