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mvassilev
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posted July 01, 2012 11:31 AM |
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And now I must ask for some advice. Everything is going well, but for the next two months, she and I will be apart - she'll be here in California and I'll be back in Kansas, returning when the semester starts. Obviously, we'll communicate via Skype/Facebook chat/Google chat/etc, but it's more difficult than in person. There's a bit of lag, so talking is less natural. We'll have to find time to talk instead of just seeing each other whenever we have free time (although I don't see this being particularly difficult). Most annoyingly, when we're talking, we'll actually have to talk the whole time. Long silences are fine when we're together in person, because we can just sit or lie together and enjoy each other's presence, talking when a thought occurs, but that doesn't really work when Skyping. So, for those of you who may have some experience with this, do you have any tips?
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fauch
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posted July 02, 2012 03:20 PM |
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find a new girlfriend in Kansas 
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DagothGares
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posted July 02, 2012 07:18 PM |
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Nothing to suggest, except the blatantly obvious: "If you're afraid of being shy on subjects, then just talk about what happened during each other's absence."
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fauch
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posted July 02, 2012 07:29 PM |
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is there anyone who can make such relationships simple?
seriously, why do everyone absolutely want a relationship of that particular type, whereas we all know the problems that it is likely to create???
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DagothGares
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posted July 02, 2012 07:32 PM |
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is there anyone who can make such relationships simple?
seriously, why do everyone absolutely want a relationship of that particular type, whereas we all know the problems that it is likely to create???
I have no idea what you are talking about. I hope you're okay with that, Fauch. I am just informing you that you're as vague as a politician talking about tax increases. And your syntax is a bit off on that last sentense. 
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fauch
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posted July 04, 2012 05:57 PM |
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we bind ourselves to another person, and then, it creates all kind of fears.
isn't mvass creating himself a problem that may actually not exist?
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mvassilev
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posted July 04, 2012 09:12 PM |
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Obstacles in communication due to distance are a real problem.
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JollyJoker
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posted July 04, 2012 09:52 PM |
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Obstacles in communication due to distance are a real problem.
Nit at all. You have just to remind yourself that unless you don't have a video connection you don't see or even hear each other, so with Skype the art is to describe a lot - what you are doing, what you have done, what you saw, heard, felt, ate since the last talk, and depending on your relationship this may become very .. err ... explicit - but doesn't have to.
You have to be creative here. 
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emilsn
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posted July 05, 2012 08:07 PM |
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hey MM - how have your story developed?
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mvassilev
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posted July 17, 2012 09:13 PM |
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After two weeks apart, communication is easier than I expected, but it's still nowhere near as good as being with her in person.
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OmegaDestroyer
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posted July 17, 2012 09:22 PM |
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Distance makes the heart grow fonder.
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william
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posted July 18, 2012 12:37 AM |
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Most annoyingly, when we're talking, we'll actually have to talk the whole time. Long silences are fine when we're together in person, because we can just sit or lie together and enjoy each other's presence, talking when a thought occurs, but that doesn't really work when Skyping.
How does it not work? When my girlfriend and I were skyping and there were long silences I just used to watch something or do something else. I did that for pretty much the whole time I was skyping.
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posted July 18, 2012 12:47 AM |
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William, you're well on your way to being married, my friend. 
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posted July 18, 2012 12:51 AM |
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I'm now in love with Kylie Minogue and have no idea what to do.
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fauch
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posted July 18, 2012 02:09 AM |
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she isn't very young anymore
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mvassilev
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posted July 18, 2012 05:16 AM |
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How does it not work? When my girlfriend and I were skyping and there were long silences I just used to watch something or do something else. I did that for pretty much the whole time I was skyping.
Because skyping is a time set aside specifically for talking. If we're together in person, we can enjoy each other's company without talking, but it would be awkward if we planned to talk and then ended up sitting there silently. Fortunately, this hasn't happened.
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Corribus
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posted July 18, 2012 05:58 AM |
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Amusingly enough, I personally know a lot of people (people who are just good friends, and people who are more than friends) who actually do their separate things while connected to a live phone line. A friend of my wife's used to call up one of her friends right before a new episode of the TV show Lost, and they'd watch it "together". The phone line was open, but they didn't really say anything to each other while the TV was going.
Never quite got that. :shrug:
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posted July 18, 2012 10:51 AM |
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William, you're well on your way to being married, my friend.
I thought Will is married already
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posted July 18, 2012 03:06 PM |
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Mvass I know exctly how you feel Acu and I have been Skyping for almost 2 years.
We were together 3rd - 17th July 2011 in Vegas and then 23rd October - 7th November 2011. It has been 8 1/2 months since we were last together in person and could be another 4 as I can't enter the states since we started the paperwork. We also have the 8 hour time difference as well which makes it harder still 
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emilsn
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posted August 01, 2012 10:53 PM |
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Friends and ex-girlfriends
Hey all - Emilsn signing in.
I just learned today that one of my (good) friends - he is not top three, but he is a good friend - is with my ex-girlfriend.
They have been an item for two weeks and as I said, I just saw that today.
So... I am quite sad that he didn't tell me. I would have liked that he did. I am not really mad, but really dissapointed.
My ex-girlfriend, well, screw her. I don't care much about her.
What do you guys think?
I will answer all your questions.
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