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Aculias
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Undefeatable Hero
Pretty Boy Angel Sacraficer
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posted January 11, 2005 11:28 AM |
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It is a fault Pandy all of it because I put other people #1 & myself #2
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sirzapdos
Promising
Famous Hero
Open the pod bay doors, Hal.
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posted January 12, 2005 01:05 AM |
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I'm uneven when it comes to conversation. Sometimes, I'll have nothing to say, other times I talk too damn much.
I don't exercise enough, and feel guilty for not doing so.
I generally don't like asking other people for help.
I'm overly pessimistic at times, even when experience has shown me to be optimistic in certain situations.
My mind can wander fairly easily at times.
I am near hopeless with girls. I have lots of "girl friends," but I have no idea how to take anything further than that. Plus I don't have the courage to ask out someone I just met.
I feel socially inept and incomplete for not having a girlfriend.
I don't take many chances.
I'm terribly uncreative.
I can be disgustingly introverted at times.
I am easily embarrassed, and blush quite easily at times.
I feel that no one in this world truly understands me, and feel shockingly alone at times, despite the fact that this is physically never the case.
It takes me a long time to feel like I fit in to a group, and until that point, I feel overly isolated and do not contribute often.
I can misunderstand the EASIEST of concepts, despite showing numerous times that I can understand the HARDEST of concepts.
I confuse self-confidence with arrogance, and as such, never seem to want to generate much confidence in myself.
Up until recently, I kept my two friendship 'hats' ("home friends" and "school friends") almost mutually exclusive, and almost never tried to mesh the two. Lately, I've been getting better at mixing the two, but reactions from my friends (both groups) tell me that keeping them mutually exclusive is a good idea.
I waste free time too easily. Rather than going to sleep, I'll screw around on the net or my computer and do nothing in an hour.
That's a good start. Any more and I'd be repeating themes.
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So I try to live a complicated world...
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Nidhgrin
Honorable
Famous Hero
baking cookies from stardust
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posted January 15, 2005 08:12 PM |
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I am the most stubborn person I know. If I don't wanna do something, I don't wanna do it. If I want to do something, I am gonna do it. This isn't such a big issue since most things I don't mind doing or not doing. Another aspect of being stubborn is the fact that when I really go for something, I'm like a bullet shot from a gun, unstoppable. Or when I stop doing something, like when I stopped eating meat, it's like stepping through a one way portal and there's no way back. Or is this more an honor thing?
Though I used to tell people I wake up slowly, I'm just grumpy the first hour in the morning. An early shot of cafeine helps, but oppositely if I don't drink coffee before noon that means walking around like a zombie till the early afternoon. Then again why would anyone not want to drink coffee before noon? It would be seen as a criminal act of madness by the coffee gods 
I am highly territorial. Not in the sense of 'my home is my castle', I am not possessive about my material possessions at all, but I can't stand people ignoring me. Depending on the situation this may result in me ignoring the other person back or indiscretely reminding the person that I expect some feedback. In the past I usually reverted to ignoring back, or generally feeling bad and wondering if I had said something wrong. Nowadays I usually choose for the second option, or for instance at work making sure that I'm in a position where I simply cannot be ignored. That may come accross as pushy or dominant behaviour but in my opinion it's healthier than ignoring my territorial behaviour and generally feeling bad.
I have NO middle term memory. This probably more than partially due to a period in my life I'd rather forget (heck, why can't I forget that ) I can remember things up to a couple of hours at most. After that, if I don't memorize them or write them down somehow they're 'poof!' unless they've made a more than general impression. Friends and colleagues make fun of me and my many notes and post-its but they are my external memory and without those I am really lost.
I am allergic to order and allergic to rules for the sole purpose to have rules. Though my place is clean, it generally looks as if a bomb has just hit it. Papers, books, cd's and other objects can be found in the weirdest contexts. Somehow though, finding a particular object takes no time at all. Tidying up means making random piles of things that are lying around, and stuffing them into closets to get them out of sight. If I'm forced to tidy up for some reason, I do, but that results in not finding stuff anymore for a while. Also, I just don't feel comfortable in a clinical environment where everything is straight and organized. I like to say a little chaos gives much more peace, or is this being unconformist for no other reason than the joy of swimming against the tide?
There's so much more heh, seems I drive people insane all the time Somehow I guess these are some things that are truly hopeless and at least I've come to accept them as parts of me rather than flaws.
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IYY
Responsible
Supreme Hero
REDACTED
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posted January 16, 2005 03:36 AM |
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Let's give some hardcore self criticism.
Well.
First of all I am sometimes a terrible hypocrite. My personal philosophy is based 100% on not judging people, but at the same time I can't help but hate at least 70% of the world population.
Second, I can be, though not always, too shy and quiet. Many a date were ruined by me not coming up with anything interesting to say and not being able to hold a decent conversation, or fill silences. This only happens with some people though.
Let's see, what else... Well, sometimes I am lazy. I can get strange mood swings and be mean to people. I am sometimes too passionate about certain things. I get nervous and depressed too easily. Stuff like that.
Yeah, I suck. 
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Kaboth
Hired Hero
Forum Vampire Killer
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posted May 24, 2005 06:43 AM |
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I go through life in an overly-obeservant manner, I wish to fix things even when it is well beyond my capacity to do so. And this causes me to become depressed and obsessive when I cannot.
I'm a compulsive fidgeter whilst I am patient, spinning a pen with my finger is necessary to ensure my comfort.
I frequently find myself doing extra work in groups because I cannot trust other people to complete the work.
I'm terrible with group socialising, socialising with more than 1 or 2 people I find very difficult and instead I just don't bother.
Cannot sleep well
Discussing things typical for my age (beer, girls, cars, parties) is difficult and unrewarding. I prefer to speak about games, films, uni, news; very non-personal topics.
Obsession with Crime TV shows - I must not miss an episode of Law & Order.
I have a lot of anger and even a sadistic streak at times.
I use false arrogance to hide my inadequecies
Very negative attitude to Eastern foreign students at university - everyone I've had to work with has been incompetant and possesed poor english.
Feel compelled to lead in groups because of my lack of faith in anyone elses ability to do lead.
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Leo_Lion
Honorable
Supreme Hero
The 5th Element & 6th Sense!
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posted May 24, 2005 07:50 AM |
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Good Post Kaboth! 
You seem to have grasped the intentions of this Thread very well...I just hope that some good came out of your self-criticism, because it looks like you were brutally honest there! 
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*The end to no beginning...
*Take care, Leo
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Kaboth
Hired Hero
Forum Vampire Killer
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posted May 24, 2005 08:29 AM |
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Good Post Kaboth!
You seem to have grasped the intentions of this Thread very well...I just hope that some good came out of your self-criticism, because it looks like you were brutally honest there!
Thankyou. If nothing else I managed to gain a clearer understanding of my faults, it really does help to actually type/write them out.
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Leo_Lion
Honorable
Supreme Hero
The 5th Element & 6th Sense!
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posted May 24, 2005 08:52 AM |
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Absolutely...Writing things down makes them real!
To think of these things, does not give them any meaning, but to write down your thoughts or to put them in action (if you're thinking of doing something), gives them tangible energy. You can then use that energy to change who you are (and become a better person) or to accomplish goals that you have set for yourself!
I learned these things from different motivational speakers and from various "performance seminars", and when you stop and examine the whole process...it really makes sense!
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*The end to no beginning...
*Take care, Leo
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DharcNemesis
Hired Hero
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posted May 24, 2005 12:42 PM |
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 My last marriage. I was a reactionary selfish inconsiderate ignorant child. Yes, I hit her. I also played mind games.
Personally I hit you back. Last guy that even looked at me sideways to indicate he was gonna try it almost went through the 2nd storey window.
Too bad too since your adorably cute.
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The one and only Nemesis
Out of the darkness she shall come.
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Consis
Honorable
Legendary Hero
Of Ruby
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posted May 24, 2005 04:31 PM |
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All I Can Say Is:
I deserve any criticism you might have of my behavior during that time of my life.
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Roses Are Red And So Am I
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Leo_Lion
Honorable
Supreme Hero
The 5th Element & 6th Sense!
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posted May 25, 2005 01:36 AM |
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When Consis takes responsibility for his actions like that, there is no way that you can stay mad at him!
Oh, and because he's so darn cute, too!
Maybe "someone" should tell us about "her" issues...such as throwing people out of windows.
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*The end to no beginning...
*Take care, Leo
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DharcNemesis
Hired Hero
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posted May 25, 2005 03:31 PM |
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Quote:
Maybe "someone" should tell us about "her" issues...such as throwing people out of windows.
hehe
I do not sleep well when Im single.
Im constantly bored because very little challenges my IQ.
I have a temper that I manage to control, unless slapped in face then the person is dead meat. Took 5 people to hold me down last time that happened.
I keep getting stood up cause I have an intimidating aura in person.
Im a doter, guess that's bad cause guys get embarassed when spoiled.
I am not coping well with being single and having 24/7 raging hormones.
There happy Leo? LOL
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The one and only Nemesis
Out of the darkness she shall come.
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Aculias
Responsible
Undefeatable Hero
Pretty Boy Angel Sacraficer
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posted May 25, 2005 03:45 PM |
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Lets see, a man beater, knows Arts of protection, men dont like to go near her,She wants constant sec besides all those I mentioned.
What does that all mean, Shes a dangerous woman that will have to force a guy to have her to get some .
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Dreaming of a Better World
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DharcNemesis
Hired Hero
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posted May 25, 2005 03:47 PM |
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Lets see, a man beater, knows Arts of protection, men dont like to go near her,She wants constant sec besides all those I mentioned.
What does that all mean, Shes a dangerous woman that will have to force a guy to have her to get some .
And if I snapped my fingers you'd come like a puppy, Acu.
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The one and only Nemesis
Out of the darkness she shall come.
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Aculias
Responsible
Undefeatable Hero
Pretty Boy Angel Sacraficer
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posted May 25, 2005 04:04 PM |
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Is that a demand 
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Dreaming of a Better World
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Consis
Honorable
Legendary Hero
Of Ruby
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posted May 25, 2005 06:04 PM |
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DharcNemesis,
You know my mother would very much agree with you to defend yourself. Not letting a man(or anyone else) hit you is very important for self confidence and esteem. If my mother were here, she'd tell you to do more than simply 'hit back'. But then if you followed her advice, you'd more than likely be seen as a criminal by the law. She's a fiesty one she is. She'd tell you to immediately proceed to 'beat the fella what done you wrong into the earth until he was 6 feet under!'
All in all: it's settled then. You're as normal as anyone else around here. You know my faults as well as others. It's a pleasure to meet you.
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Roses Are RedAnd So Am I
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Leo_Lion
Honorable
Supreme Hero
The 5th Element & 6th Sense!
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posted May 25, 2005 06:18 PM |
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Such wit, such humour...I find it hard to believe that you have trouble finding & keeping a man.
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*The end to no beginning...
*Take care, Leo
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DharcNemesis
Hired Hero
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posted May 25, 2005 06:35 PM |
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Trust me Leo I ask myself why everyday....
Considering my ex is dating a whale with braces and acne and he told me he dont know why he just loves her....please. Even with my intelligence this goes way beyond logic.
oh well I'll find someone sooner or later although I do get ragged alot for doing dating site thing, I have learned through study and personal experience that when you eliminate the physical part of dating and leave it to chat you learn alot more about a person and the type of people they are.
My ex-husband I knew more about him in a month then I knew about Wizam who I was common-law with for 7 years. It's the one thing logic and intelligence seem to never figure how and that's people. I can profile a person exactly but it doesnt mean they cant pull a rabbit out of the hat and surprise you. Sometimes I think I'd be a much happier person if I was just a little stupider.
Thanks Con and your still cute...LOL
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The one and only Nemesis
Out of the darkness she shall come.
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Consis
Honorable
Legendary Hero
Of Ruby
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posted May 25, 2005 09:47 PM |
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Hmm,
Ah the dating sites. I've absolutely no idea what that experience is like. I wonder...do they localize it for you? Driving hours to meet a person seems unrealistic to me. People have jobs; they have to work; family/friend commitments; etc. I don't know how they do it.
I've always thought the best way to meet a person was through work, grocery shopping, or church.
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Roses Are RedAnd So Am I
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DharcNemesis
Hired Hero
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posted May 26, 2005 02:36 AM |
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Ah the dating sites. I've absolutely no idea what that experience is like. I wonder...do they localize it for you? Driving hours to meet a person seems unrealistic to me. People have jobs; they have to work; family/friend commitments; etc. I don't know how they do it.
I've always thought the best way to meet a person was through work, grocery shopping, or church.
Yeah you can do local search, I met my soon to be ex on one, he drove from MA to Canada every weekend to visit me. Besides some people who believe no distance is too far when love is involved. I stayed with an English guy for 2 years, when he finally tried to come to Canada from UK, Canada denied him entry, and that sorta crashed our world and it went downhill from there.
Im staying more local this time and taking more time to talk/date before committing to anyone, after all one learns from their mistakes. Besides RL dating aint all it's cracked up to be and I've never met anyone LOL at a grocery store, though my sister thought she'd be funny setting me up with the court officer...then suggested I try a library or grocery store and stay off date sites.
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The one and only Nemesis
Out of the darkness she shall come.
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