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Aculias
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posted January 06, 2007 02:46 AM |
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I dont know why your pulling this guilt trip.
Sometimes serving is not for everyone.
There are many oppurtunities everywhere.
People need to find thier calling.
Some dream & some want to serve thier country.
Some want to be doctors.
Some want to be ball players.
Some want to just live a simple life & have a family.
Some dont even qualify for any of those.
Some simply dont care.
So many choices but also many roads then leads to them.
Sometimes you choose the wrong road & it detours to a totally diferent field or worst. Backwards.
Not everyone shares your dreams.
Thats what I have been trying to tell you.
It dont mean we disaprove of it or dislike it.
It dont even mean we disrespect it.
Sometimes it;s just not us.
You should respect that too.
Were not lower because we refuse to serve.
Yall are fighting for us & the children & what we stand for.
I am not stupid Consis i know alot more then people think.
I may make sarcastic jokes in certain threads but if you actually read them.
Those jokes are actually true too.
I dont hate you COnsis but i despise you for many reasons.
Like I said.It's very personal.
I also know that the beatles did not have the right to the motion soundtrack A Hard Day's night so in Capitol records they were not alloud to use the same name.
They used the name "Something New" & used all the songs & plus some singles in that album from A Hard Day's night soundtrack except 3 songs.
A Hard Day's Night
I should of Known better
Can't Buy Me Love
Those were later released in 68 in the album Hey Jude.
Ever since the first album Capitol records made sure they had rights for the rest of the movies like help etc.
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Guitarguy
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posted June 30, 2007 11:54 AM |
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I never wanted to hold grudges. I always wanted to pride myself as being someone who was mature enough to look past people's many imperfections and remain focused on the brighter side of things. I didn't want to dwell on various conflicts with people, but rather to forgive and forget in a very positive and grown-up way.
Sadly, I'm not like that. I may appear calm, reserved, and fairly patient to most people, but in truth, I'm sensitive to the core. It doesn't take very much to set me off. I take criticism very badly on the inside, even though I maintain my outward composure fairly well. When someone insults me, you can forget about me even trying to keep a positive mindset. My mind literally fills with scorn and occasionally hateful thoughts, obviously disproportionate to the actual situation at hand. Why do I inflate these minor issues into towering monstrosities in my mind? I can't say for certain, although I do realize that it isn't healthy. However, what can I do? I am a powder keg that goes off on the inside, yet appears peaceful and unaffected on the outside. All of this is very deceptive and hard to come to terms with.
Thank God I'm not the violent type. Thank God I don't resort to getting physical whenever somebody even remotely crosses me. Thank God I have enough self control to keep things relatively peaceful. What kind of hellish mess would I be in if all that were so? Phew.
Nevertheless, this is tough for me. I am judgemental and I hold grudges against friends and strangers when things don't go smoothly. I'm unable to forgive and forget within a fair amount of time. I dwell on past incidents and rekindle fires that died long ago. I wish these things didn't get to me. With so many people here, there, and all over the place pissing me off, will I ever learn to respond better (on the inside)? I wish I could.
-Guitarguy
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Aculias
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posted June 30, 2007 01:16 PM |
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Man I think you need to find your happy place.
Maybe see some counciling.
If all the stuff you mentioned since i known you on here is true.
You might need to get some real help before you get too much older.
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Shai-Hulud
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posted July 01, 2007 10:11 AM |
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Man I think you need to find your happy place.
Maybe see some counciling.
LOL!!! This is the best combination of lines in a while around here 
GuitarGuy, it seems Aculias is pinpointing you to a sanatorium or something. He wants you to be in "your happy place"
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Guitarguy
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posted July 01, 2007 11:26 AM |
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GuitarGuy, it seems Aculias is pinpointing you to a sanatorium or something. He wants you to be in "your happy place"
Scary, ain't it? Acu has mentioned a "happy place" several times, and it's mindboggling. Is this some sort of utopian heaven-on-earth? Or is it just the funny farm? Sometimes I could settle for both. 
-Guitarguy
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Aculias
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posted July 01, 2007 12:24 PM |
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Well you got to find something while your here.
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Orfinn
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posted July 01, 2007 09:22 PM |
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Edited by Orfinn at 21:24, 01 Jul 2007.
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1) I get easly angerful when somethings bother me or my closest friends and I quickly get dark thoughts. But weird enough I have enough self control to avoid that, Im a grownup dammit, so no need for d-thoughts. Also I hate mobbers, people that misuse others like hell. I know how it feels like! So I can say I have a sense of justice.
2) I easly get a tear in my eye when someone dies, now speaking of persons in family, some of my friends. I let my feelings out mostly but only to a thrusted few. I aslo get sad seeing a child having a grandpha by his/her side and I think back when one of my grandphas was still alive, (and the happy times the other one died one year before I got born which irritates me
But there are some happy tears there, I soften when I see that old people are with youngsters and children. Its like looking at past and future and they turn into a friendly, peacefull mix 
3) Easly getting jealous if a girl-friend of mine have slept with someone, even if it was a onenightstand. I get thoughts of how wonderful I haad it when I slept with her.
4)Im very lazy sometimes.
5)I get emotions like a rollercoaster when different girls I know of loves me.
6) My mood changes like a twister in a cross-press, friends, family, job etc. I get dilemmas on what to prior first.
7) Im picky on my hairstyle, ahve to wash it almost every day and sweep it all backwards, except if I have been at a hairdresser and made it short. Hate getting my hair in my eyes, it tickles just to much.
8) Can sometimes get paranoia because of point 9.
9) I get easly unsosial if I have not met friends for a while and have stayed either in front of my PC or Tv with xbox. I get pretty shy.
10) I bet I could kill any foe in self defence, on the stairsteps to death itself.
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necrorevan
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posted July 01, 2007 11:03 PM |
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1- I have a very developped pride in myself however when it is threatened it transforms into arrogance.
2- Often I know or think I know that I am superior in mostly all aspects to all those who surround me even loved ones.
3- I hate showing emotion, so I could appear very indifferent in a very exiting occasion or a very sad one.
4- I am very judgemental, I find it hard to forgive the folies and vices of others, my good opinion once lost is lost forever.
In that sense I have little mercy and a very strong sence of justice. For example if a drug addict is dying I would not pity him instead I would say he got what he deserved, same with Hiv AIDS.
Also in that sence I am striclty intolerant to vices and sins even if others don't aknowledge them as such.
5- finally I find all in the above good qualities
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homam
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posted July 03, 2007 12:25 PM |
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-a bit shy
-i hardly adjust with the situations
-i'm scared of changes
-narrow minded
-i hate women
-i am not patient at all
-everyone with different ideas of mine don't deserves to talk
oh finally i am an *******
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Kipshasz
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posted July 04, 2007 09:22 PM |
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ok...
i'm a selfish *censored* sadist who ussually dont respect other people and mock em till the end of time. im a bloodthirsty bastard,with very short temper and that would be it
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"Ashan to the Trashcan", "I got PTSD from H7. " - LizardWarrior
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william
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posted July 05, 2007 03:28 AM |
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Kipshasz, don't mean to be rude, but it almost sounds as if you think that those things are good.
Trust me, having a very short temper is NOT a good thing.
Or maybe I am just misunderstanding what exactly you are saying 
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Aculias
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posted July 05, 2007 10:19 AM |
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I dont think it's your place to judge a whole person.
You dont see people judging you.
No one likes to be judged.
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william
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posted July 05, 2007 10:33 AM |
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Aculias, maybe you should reread my post, I was not judging him, I was asking him a question.
I am just confused by his post.
Thanks.
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Aculias
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posted July 05, 2007 10:38 AM |
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He is an ^&^$%*( is what he is saying.
I dont think it would make much sense to ask an $#%^&*&* why he is an @#$%^$% lol.
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Setitetart
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Reality check....
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posted July 16, 2007 06:17 AM |
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My flaws?
Hmmm...I have quite a few.
So I will be brave and post on this...I think I have the stones to take whatever people say next.
I am far too honest. To the point I have seriously hurt people with my brand of honesty. Sorry I cant tell you that hat looks good on you if it doesn't. I simply wont lie to save anyone's feelings. Period.
I can be excessively mean. Can be horribly mean spirited, especially if you cause me drama or strife. I AM one of those people that if you fall and hurt yourself, or bonk your head on something, or walk into a door....I will completely laugh at you.
My husband says that my humor hinges on other people's pain, suffering, and misfortune, although I dont truly think my humor is that dark. it IS dark, but NOT that bad.
I do not have obvious girly emotions (perhaps because I grew up around a lot of guys?)...I dont cry. The very few times it has happened it has either been because i was so angry that was my only outlet or because I was in grief over a loss that actually meant something to me.
But overall I do not get "cheerleader-ish", by nature I am quite somber and serious.
I have gotten to a point in my life where my faith in humanity has gone into the negatives. I have seen some of the worst of the worst and this makes me extremely guarded. I meet people with sarcasm and judgement on my mind most times, because truth told I have no reason to believe that anyone IS very good.
However, i will say this, that I have been pleasantly surprised to meet people who are not only honest, but good people all around as well.
I have a horrible potty mouth. Worse than a truck driver and a sailor combined. Add to that my sarcasm and sharp edged words and you have someone who can tear another person down in a matter of seconds.
I have zero tolerance for stupid people and persons lacking common sense.
I truly HATE most people in my family, both my mother's side and my father's side. I think I can count the people I truly LOVE on one hand.
I HATE other people's kids most of the time unless they are well behaved.
I think I could be a little OCD...LOL....but that is a flaw all of its own.
I might add more to this later...but that is enough for now. LOL
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william
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posted July 16, 2007 06:29 AM |
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heh, Honesty is good, it would be better then lying to someone imo.
And I guess I am the same, if you bonk your head on a door, or fall over, I will laugh at you 
Okay so some of my flaws.
I have an extremely short temper, I can be normal and happy one second, and the next, I can be throwing punches and swearing very very badly.
I hate it when I am trying to read something but can't because that person has such bad spelling, I can't help this, so yeah, I just like being able to understand what the person is trying to say.
I swear a lot, and I mean ALOT!!, just watch some of my youtube vids
I swear alot when I get angry as well.
I often dwell on things, like if I do a particular thing, then I will think about it for hours, contemplating whether I could have changed what I did, or what might happen because of it, or whether it was the right or wrong thing to do.
I can't help it really.
I get really angry if people say anything about my family.
My family means alot to me, and if anyone says something, I can't help but get angry and go after them.
I also hate "mum jokes".
I hate when people think they are better then someone else because they are bigger then them.
They annoy me quite alot, and I feel it is my duty to teach those people a lesson in pain, I dunno why
I hate it when people come on my computer without asking, because I fear they may do something to it, like delete some songs of mine, or muck around with one of my accounts at a site, it just annoys me.
I hate it when I am disturbed for no reason at all, I like having my space and this room to myself, and it annoys me when I am in the middle of something very important and I get interrupted.
I often have thoughts of hurting everyone around me, and sometimes that kinda scares me.
I HATE being ordered around in RL, I just do not like being told what to do, and that is the reason why I do not like school so much.
I wouldn't mind if it was at work, but at school it is different, because the teachers treat some students better and some others worse, and yes this is true at my school, in fact I can think of one class now where someone gets treated better than everyone else. 
I hate being beaten in something which I am good at.
There are probably more flaws in me, but I guess these are the main ones.
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Asheera
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posted August 31, 2008 04:36 PM |
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I don't think it's good to self-criticize yourself. Because, what you do, you do because that's what you want to do. If you feel like being lazy, for example, then that's what you want to do and this lets you feel better. So, from your point of view this is ok and acceptable. That's why self-criticism is somehow biased and flawed (I'm not talking about those that regret their decisions every day though)
However, when people criticize you they do so from their point of view, and thus you may receive a lot of negative feedback as well. And when most people say that what you do is not very good then it makes you think about it and maybe you'll change... or not
Just think about it: those that consider themselves "flawed" by being lazy (this is an example) do so because others criticized them first, and they understood the idea (but not necessarily changed though). You don't think that you're flawed unless others point that to you.
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TheDeath
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posted August 31, 2008 04:41 PM |
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You don't think that you're flawed unless others point that to you.
WRONG.
seriously. You can perfectly self-criticize yourself without having someone else tell you that, it happened with me a lot of times.
I think it's called "contemplation" or something.
You can very easily criticize yourself that you're lazy even if you are the only human on Earth. For example, you don't get the job done, so you regret it -- then you self-criticize yourself being lazy.
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Asheera
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posted August 31, 2008 04:45 PM |
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You can very easily criticize yourself that you're lazy even if you are the only human on Earth. For example, you don't get the job done, so you regret it -- then you self-criticize yourself being lazy.
You don't regret it, because you HAD a reason for being lazy (that's why you were lazy in the first place)
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TheDeath
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posted August 31, 2008 04:48 PM |
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You don't regret it, because you HAD a reason for being lazy (that's why you were lazy in the first place)
I DO regret a lot of stuff I do. I know I had a reason, but isn't that what wisdom is about? For example, never do tomorrow what you can finish today. Lazy people are simply not wise enough, in this context. Many people blame themselves for what they've done. I'm actually surprised you deny that. (when others even tell them it's not "their fault").
Just because you never regretted anything you've done doesn't mean others don't.
for example, let's say a guy is lazy and tomorrow he suffers because of it. He can and WILL blame himself for being "not wise" enough for example.
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