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ego and love aren't compatible, the ego is unable to love, not even sure if he knows what it is (maybe he thinks he knows)
being in love, maybe that means ignoring your ego.

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My personal experience tells me that it is possible to remain friends with someone you used to have a crush on.

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The respondent is a relation of intimacy between human beings and especially here, between two people of the couple. It is the couple, "in truth". More than an attitude, the truth comes to the level of being and penetrates even to motivations and behavior of the most trivial acts. We understand when it is not easy to recognize as intimate. All temporal organization of man is interwoven with falsehood and lies necessarily within the couple's cause. Relations "normal" man and woman are generally based on a compromise, because the moment a couple becomes aware that it is not the ideal couple is two people of the same species, As this couple has no burning desire to merge in practice means a life where everything is lived together, day by day, hour by hour, moment by moment is, after all, that the relationship is built on a lie.

If a man truly recognizes his wife for his wife and vice versa, he should leave his father and mother, that is, the outside world, and do not be one and one flesh with its soul - sister. The compromise I mentioned above is manifested even in work. If two people are separated for long hours during the week and put up with this situation, under the pretext that "it must make a good living" is implicitly they know, without admitting, that they are better without each other. I hear voices m'objectent that the material aspect is also important that a man has done on their own, it does not need a "crutch" wert she the loved one to fulfill themselves, etc.. Anyone who honestly support these views are beings who have not met their inner being or that, too absent of themselves, they have not recognized In God, man is not without the woman nor the woman without the man!

Verily verily I say unto you, that is to say, intimately, intimately I tell you, there's nothing else to do on earth than love, the rest being but vanity and vexation of spirit! Can we love in half? Can we give in small pieces? As there is only the impossible that may be true, we must attempt the impossible, particularly in the relationship with the person we believe our inner being. If everyone applied these truths before the world would change. Imagine for a moment, a world based not on lies but the truth of the couple. Imagine the head of the country, not an individual but an entity-couple, with this constant supply of two complementary points of view, with this dialogue in truth.

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L'Intimisme est un rapport d'intimité entre les êtres et plus particulièrement ici, entre les deux êtres du couple. C'est le couple, "en vérité". Plus qu'une attitude, cette vérité s'inscrit au niveau de l'être et pénètre même jusqu'aux motivations des comportements et des actes les plus anodins. On comprendra dès lors qu'il n'est pas facile de se reconnaître comme intimiste. Toute l'organisation temporelle de l'homme est imbriquée dans le mensonge et s'étend forcément à l'intérieur du couple causal. Les relations "normales" de l'homme et de la femme sont généralement basées sur un compromis, car dès l'instant où un couple se rend compte qu'il n'est pas le couple idéal, fait de deux êtres de même essence,tant que ce couple n'a pas un désir ardent de fusion qui se traduit concrètement par une vie où tout est vécu ensemble, au jour le jour, d'heures en heures, d'instant en instant, c'est, somme toute, que la relation est bâtie sur un mensonge.

Si un homme reconnaît véritablement sa femme pour sa femme et vice-versa, il devrait quitter son père et sa mère, c'est à-dire le monde extérieur, et ne faire qu'un seul être et une seule chair avec son âme-soeur. Le compromis dont j'ai parlé plus haut se manifeste jusque dans le travail. Si deux personnes se séparent pendant de longues heures durant la semaine et s'accommodent de cette situation, sous prétexte "qu'il faut bien gagner sa vie", c'est qu'implicitement ils connaissent, sans se l'avouer,qu'ils sont mieux l'un sans l'autre. J'entends des voix qui m'objectent que l'aspect matériel a aussi son importance, qu'un homme accompli doit s'assumer seul, qu'il ne doit pas avoir besoin d'une "béquille", fusse-t-elle la personne aimée pour se réaliser pleinement, etc. Tous ceux qui soutiennent honnêtement ces points de vue sont des êtres qui n'ont pas rencontré leur être intime ou bien que, trop absents d'eux-mêmes, ils ne l'ont pas reconnu, En Dieu, l'homme n'est pas sans la femme ni la femme sans l'homme!

En vérité en vérité, je vous le dis, c'est-à-dire intimement, intimement je vous le dis, il n'y a rien d'autre à faire sur la terre que de s'aimer, le reste n'étant que vanité et poursuite du vent! Peut-on aimer à moitié? Peut-on se donner par petits bouts?  Comme il n'y a que l'impossible qui risque d'être vrai, il faut tenter l'impossible, particulièrement dans la relation privilégiée avec l'être que nous croyons notre être intime. Si chacun appliquait ces vérités, la face du monde changerait. Imaginons, pour quelques instants, un monde basé non plus sur le mensonge mais sur la vérité du couple. Imaginons à la tête des pays, non plus un individu, mais une entité-couple, avec cet apport constant des deux points de vue complémentaires, avec cette concertation, en vérité.

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Genuine love is... the most selfish experience possible, in the true sense of the term: it benefits your life in a way that involves no sacrifice of others to yourself or of yourself to others.

To love a person is selfish because it means that you value that particular person, that he or she makes your life better, that he or she is an intense source of joy--to you. A "disinterested" love is a contradiction in terms. One cannot be neutral to that which one values. The time, effort and money you spend on behalf of someone you love are not sacrifices, but actions taken because his or her happiness is crucially important to your own. Such actions would constitute sacrifices only if they were done for a stranger--or for an enemy. Those who argue that love demands self-denial must hold the bizarre belief that it makes no personal difference whether your loved one is healthy or sick, feels pleasure or pain, is alive or dead.

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Those who expect to be loved, not because they offer some positive value, but because they don't--i.e., those who demand love as altruistic duty--are parasites. Someone who says "Love me just because I need it" seeks an unearned spiritual value--in the same way that a thief seeks unearned wealth.

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or you can approach it from a logical angle, make it systematic, and be much more successful.

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I strongly advise anyone searching for love never to read a single post of this thread.

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Dating and love isn't quite the same thing, it's like you are talking about a business proposal.

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