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Corribus
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The Abyss Staring Back at You
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posted November 24, 2012 08:28 AM |
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She read Atlas Shrugged and liked it, agreeing with most of it, and disagreeing with some of the same parts I disagreed with.
I've always said this is the cornerstone of any lasting relationship. 
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I'm sick of following my dreams. I'm just going to ask them where they're goin', and hook up with them later. -Mitch Hedberg
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Seraphim
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Knowledge Reaper
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posted November 24, 2012 09:25 AM |
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Well to me marriage is an "official commitment" to that person, taking it a step further to show your love to everyone around you and that you're devoted and officially off the market.
So its done to show other people, who dont give a damn about your life anyway, that you or she are publically commited. Its just showoff value. It has nothing got to do with romance.
Lets forget the ceremonial part, how is "Signing" a bureaucratic document a sign of commitment? Its a business contract that only benefits the state.
The ceremonial part is a more interesting issue though. Women just love it. Stereotypically, its the childhood dream of all women to marry a white prince in a castle in glory....
And again, this is not done for love but for either personal desire or showoff value.
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Also there are financial benefits in being married.
Like what?
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friendofgunnar
Honorable
Legendary Hero
able to speed up time
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posted November 24, 2012 09:29 AM |
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Yes, though she's more reluctant to voice them..........religion is evil and should disappear).
*slot machine jackpot sound*
I agree with Cor though, you need to do something special for the big day, otherwise she's going to put it in her chest of suppressed resentments and stew on it for the rest of her life. There's not going to be a church involved obviously but you should do something creative 
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mvassilev
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Undefeatable Hero
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posted November 24, 2012 09:39 AM |
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Seraphim:
Marriage isn't for other people, marriage is for you and your significant other. It brings the two of you closer together. It's got nothing to do with showing off (at least not when it's done for the right reasons).
FoG:
Of course we'll celebrate it, we'll invite some friends and relatives for a small gathering (approximately 30 people), but there's no need for it to actually be a wedding. She and I have talked about this and we agree that it definitely won't be on the same day on which we sign the document, it'll be a week or a couple of weeks later. We'll want to spend our wedding day by ourselves, just the two of us. And before anyone says something like, "Yeah, right. She'll resent it if that's all you do.", she's the one who initially suggested not doing much (including not getting her an engagement ring). I had no particular desire to do so anyway, so it's what we both prefer.
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Eccentric Opinion
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william
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Undefeatable Hero
LummoxLewis
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posted November 24, 2012 10:54 AM |
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I haven't read previous pages in detail so you may have already said, but when do you two plan on getting married? Congrats as well. Glad you found someone who you seem genuinely very happy with. 
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~Ticking away the moments that
make up a dull day, Fritter and
waste the hours in an off-hand
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JoonasTo
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Undefeatable Hero
What if Elvin was female?
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posted November 24, 2012 11:40 AM |
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Edited by JoonasTo at 11:41, 24 Nov 2012.
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Is this your first, if you don't mind me asking?
First ones rarely last.
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DON'T BE A NOOB, JOIN A.D.V.E.N.T.U.R.E.
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mvassilev
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posted November 24, 2012 01:11 PM |
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william:
In 2-3 years, probably. Not soon.
Joonas:
It's my first, not counting something that lasted a month a couple of years ago. I know first relationships generally don't last (though I know of several exceptions), but we get along well (we haven't had a single fight, and being with her is always fun) and have already talked about our plans for the future, which are highly compatible.
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Eccentric Opinion
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JoonasTo
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Undefeatable Hero
What if Elvin was female?
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posted November 24, 2012 01:22 PM |
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When it seems too perfect, it usually is. Find out what the problems are, get rid of them before they become a problem. If you don't argue, you just haven't found them yet.
Best of luck otherwise.
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DON'T BE A NOOB, JOIN A.D.V.E.N.T.U.R.E.
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william
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LummoxLewis
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posted November 24, 2012 01:55 PM |
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If you have that gut feeling in your stomach that it's right then it usually is. Always go with your gut. Really glad for ya, mate.
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~Ticking away the moments that
make up a dull day, Fritter and
waste the hours in an off-hand
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JoonasTo
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Undefeatable Hero
What if Elvin was female?
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posted November 24, 2012 03:47 PM |
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In matters of the heart, follow your dick.
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Zenofex
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posted November 25, 2012 09:55 AM |
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I'm not sure if lack of argument is a good thing. Hell, I've been accused that I maintain too calm relationship with too few arguments. Since them I'm not even trying to understand women.
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mvassilev
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posted November 25, 2012 10:37 AM |
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If you have disagreements and don't voice them, that's bad. If you have disagreements and when you voice them, they turn into fights, that's also bad. If, when you have a disagreement, you can discuss it calmly, with both partners doing their best to resolve it, that's good. If you don't have disagreements often, that's even better. A calm relationship is preferable, as long as neither partner is reluctant to bring up an issue and discuss it.
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Eccentric Opinion
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Zenofex
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Kreegan-atheist
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posted November 25, 2012 10:48 AM |
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Edited by Zenofex at 10:50, 25 Nov 2012.
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Maybe I didn't phrase it correctly - the complaint was that we don't have disagreements. Not suppressed disagreements, not hipocrisy or anything like that - just lack of disagreements. Of course there were occasional arguments but... I don't know, it turns out that they were too few and too... uninteresting.
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mvassilev
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posted November 25, 2012 11:05 AM |
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Then there's something wrong. You should talk to her about it (if you're still together).
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Eccentric Opinion
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Doomforge
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Undefeatable Hero
Retired Hero
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posted November 25, 2012 12:23 PM |
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Honestly, if a girl told me we don't have enough arguments to fill her gross desires of people yelling at each other, I'd dump her the next second. No exceptions.
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We reached to the stars and everything is now ours
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Fauch
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posted November 25, 2012 03:23 PM |
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she would disagree and it would turn her on
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favio
Hired Hero
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posted December 10, 2012 02:21 PM |
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There is one word how to say what is love. Love is disease
Its a normal chemical process inside our bodies. Our hormons play a such kind of game
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Ghost
Undefeatable Hero
Therefore I am
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posted December 10, 2012 02:38 PM |
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If depend on parents and friends.. ****! It's all worse, because you must go to theirs.. Ask for permission etc.. Example you are fierce or sit on sofa.. You have better harddisk GB in brain..
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Seraphim
Supreme Hero
Knowledge Reaper
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posted December 13, 2012 01:56 AM |
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Since it is such an awesome time ,you know christmas and all, I wanted to share this song with you.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FJSprXxBoyo
The thing about this song is, its beautiful. So if you have a girlfriend or simply like chilling music, listen to this.
Why did i do this? The song is just so heartwarming and makes me happy.
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carcity
Supreme Hero
Blind Sage
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posted December 26, 2012 01:41 AM |
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I have two friends, both very close to me, who recently entered what could be called a relationship, in the sense that they were both willing to try it out and interested in each other, but she has commitment issues and doesn't want to jump into anything too fast.
A few weeks ago, they got into a fight, leading to them not talking to each other anymore, she got hurt and now refuse to talk to him. This, of course, made him upset and he's trying desperately to fix it.
Normally, I wouldn't get involved, but since me and the girl are very close friends, he keeps asking me for advice about her and to talk to her for him. I would tell him to get over it, since she obviously either needs time or doesn't want any more contact with him whatsoever; but the current situation puts a strain on not only the two of them, but our entire circle of friends.
I'm asking you for advice on what to do, since this has more or less started to divide our friend circle in two halves, people who know either he or she best, and I'm caught inbetween.
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