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mvassilev
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posted December 26, 2012 02:10 AM |
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Have you talked to the girl about the fact that the guy wants to talk to her?
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carcity
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posted December 26, 2012 02:30 AM |
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Several times, she reacts with what seems like total apathy, as if he means nothing to her anymore. Occasionally she also becomes angry that he doesn't talk to her about it himself.
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mvassilev
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posted December 26, 2012 02:34 AM |
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Occasionally she also becomes angry that he doesn't talk to her about it himself.
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she got hurt and now refuse to talk to him.
Huh? Is she willing to talk to him or not?
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carcity
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posted December 26, 2012 02:36 AM |
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It's a bit confusing to me, since she doesn't want to talk to him, when he contacts her she ignores him. Yet she still gets angry if he tries to contact her through me instead. It's as if she wants him to try harder to get her back rather than be rid of him.
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posted December 26, 2012 02:37 AM |
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It's a woman. The key is to not think logically.
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mvassilev
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posted December 26, 2012 02:54 AM |
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Carcity:
She doesn't want him to contact her directly, and she gets angry if he tries to contact her through you. Sounds like she doesn't want him to contact her at all, whether directly or through you. It's probably best to advise him to give up. He can't fix anything unless she's open to it being fixed, and she isn't.
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It's a woman. The key is to not think logically.
Shame on you, sexist.
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Tsar-Ivor
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posted December 26, 2012 02:57 AM |
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He's just not trying hard enough, or the right way.
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posted December 26, 2012 02:58 AM |
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I suppose that's true. And if he really does feel for her, he should respect that. Thanks for your help.
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william
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posted January 02, 2013 07:14 PM |
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Well a day after Boxing Day, my girlfriend broke up with me. I tell you what, I have never in my life been so crushed as I was in that moment. The most difficult thing right now is that I am still living with her and have to wait until the 31st January to wait until I can go back (the same flight as my sister is getting back as she is in England for holiday).
Nearly 3 years this March and it came down to my continuous **** ups. It was all me in the end. I have said some nasty **** to her in the past and I got addicted to gaming and didn't spend that much time with her, but she gave me the 2 and a half best years that I have ever had. Shame it came down to this in such a **** way but I will always love her and she will always be the one that got away for me.
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posted January 02, 2013 07:50 PM |
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It takes two to tango man. Sorry to burst your bubble, but it nevers is just your fault. 
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mvassilev
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posted January 02, 2013 07:51 PM |
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posted January 02, 2013 08:17 PM |
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And here I thought her liking of your pics on fb actually meant you're getting back together. 
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william
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posted January 10, 2013 11:34 AM |
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Well at the moment, we are currently working on things. Slowly, but we are working on things. A week and a bit ago, I had come home from work. I had accepted things at that stage. I was going to be leaving my job in a week and I was going to be flying back to Australia on the 31st January with my sister (she's over in Europe for a holiday). I had accepted that I wasn't going to be getting back with her and I wanted to start a fresh life back in Australia with my family and friends. Anyway, I was watching Liverpool beat Sunderland and I was in a real good mood when she comes home with a mate of hers who is also a good mate of mine. He hadn't heard what I had had to say by this point, so we both went out for a cigarette and he just asked me to tell him what was going on. I did and during this, my ex had heard this and got upset but in a good way. After he left, she and I had a big discussion and she basically wanted to try again, for the last time. If I stuff up then it is it. Done. I accepted that. She wanted to move slowly with it, give her time to think and to clear her head.
I am going to be moving out as I think space is what we both need. Also, that way, we can start dating like how we really should have. As we both met online, when I got over, I immediately moved in with her and we were always in each others faces so I never got my own time and she never got hers really and I think that is one of the big problems but it's a problem that can be fixed.
I know that it takes two to tango but she never really did anything wrong. I understand that it was pretty much me. My ADHD can make me quite immature at times and I'm still coming to grips with trying to control it. I'm not trying to use it as an excuse but it is a reason and sometimes it can cause me to be just a tad too much for people to deal with.
I'm also extremely stubborn which can be a problem. With my addictive personality, I played games or made music all the time and, unfortunately, I didn't really spend all that much time with her. I didn't even talk to her that much and because I am that stubborn and also have such a short temper, when she told me off for it, I exploded. I regret all of that now and in an effort to make things work, I haven't really played with games or made music in the last week and a half. Whenever she's not here I might play a little bit but not to the extent that I did and I feel good about it.
In the last week and a bit since trying to work on things, I have spent more time with her and doing things with her than I have in probably the last months and I am having a lot of fun and I'm happy and she seems to be happy as well. A few days ago we went to Brighton, a sea side place that she's wanted to go to with me for a while but I always said I can't be bothered at the last minute. When I finished work on Sunday I asked her if she was free tomorrow and she said yes and I asked if she wanted to go to Brighton. I hadn't seen her that excited and happy for a while. I didn't even care how much it cost, I just wanted to do it and I had so much fun in the end.
I was also always very stingy with my money. Never wanted to really spend it on her, always on myself or just not at all. I don't even know why because I really should be spending it on her while also spending it on myself. I never had the balance. I know I don't have to spend money in order to go out but it is nice to just spend it once in a while, which I never really did with her.
I am only 22 and I know I have a lot of life experience to go through yet and a lot of maturing to do. I've only ever been in 2 relationships before so I'm not the most experienced with them but I don't want this last chance to be another stuff up on my part. I want this to work and I'm just starting to get back to my normal happy self again. Whether it does work or not, I will be glad that she did give me the last chance and I can go back to Australia knowing I did everything I could in order to have made it work.
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posted January 12, 2013 04:08 AM |
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Oh no.
I think it might be happening again. That L word is bouncing around in my head.
Gonna keep it cool for now. See where this goes.
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friendofgunnar
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posted January 14, 2013 01:48 AM |
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You were married weren't you? And now you're not?
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Fauch
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posted January 14, 2013 04:24 PM |
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I haven't been in love for quite some time now, and I was wondering, is there actually a difference between being in love, and, for example, desiring a beautiful car?
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OhforfSake
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posted January 14, 2013 04:35 PM |
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As every experience is subjective to the observer, it depends on who answers the question. For me, it's very different, because I've never desired a car.
For the more general question, as the feeling of desire have different magnitudes, yet can't objectively be stated if it's because of an actual difference in the input, i.e. the feeling send, or if it's because of a change within me, i.e. the receiver/interpretator within me, it's pretty hard to tell. My memory at the present moments tell me no. Not that I really trust it on matters of emotions, as future thoughts can empower the memory of the emotion remembered.
E.g. you meet a beautiful girl, but you're not really interested in her only because of her look, so you don't really consider her. However she comes on to you, which makes you think she considers you. By thinking back on the situation in the future, projection your own feelings of attraction for other people in even earlier moments of your life on to her, you can end up falling for her easily, despite in the situation where she came on to you, you didn't want to pursue anything. Thereby the emotion is stronger in your memory, than it was in reality.
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Fauch
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posted January 14, 2013 10:22 PM |
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I never desired a car either.
I think we initially don't want to pursue anything. things have to come to us first. and you may not be interested in a car at first, but more you know about its characteristics, more the desire may grow. of course cars don't have consideration for you.
can people be attracted by the mere fact that someone considers them? (well, maybe if they are really desperate) I suppose there should be something else of interest in that person, or you will probably just not care about her. you said she is beautiful. that doesn't mean your first thought will be to start a relationship with her. you didn't think about it until she talked about it. in the same way you didn't think about buying the car before you saw it at the tv.
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MightyMage
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posted January 17, 2013 07:05 AM |
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@MM
You were married weren't you? And now you're not?
I was engaged. Never got married. Broke it off with her February of 2010.
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friendofgunnar
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posted January 17, 2013 12:45 PM |
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So who's the current flame?
Speaking of being married and then not any more...
me.
It was an amicable split, it just had to do with the strange circumstances of my life which I won't go into.
But!
now I'm back on the market 
Since I've had such an entertaining time reading your stories I've been thinking about contributing my own progress to the thread. I won't be able to write anything for awhile though because I'm housebound working on a project 24/7 like a mad scientist. Give me a couple months to get things sorted out and then I may have something to write about. For example: the chick I've got my sights on at this point in time may actually be a guy  .
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